DISCUSSION: Comment Guilt

Being a blogger I of course love getting comments on my posts. It's so amazing to feel like someone has really appreciated your post and that they've taken the time out of their day to comment. I honestly get so excited when I see a new comment on one of my posts.


Replying to comments on my own blog isn't something I struggle with. It's commenting on other people's blog that I sometimes find really difficult...There's so many amazing bloggers that I follow and I want to be able to comment on every post from them, but it's harder than it sounds sometimes:

Problem No 1: I don't want to leave a generic comment
It's easy enough to leave a comment saying 'great post' or something to that degree, and don't get me wrong I still appreciate when these comments are left on my blog, but more often than not I want to leave a a more meaningful comment but can never think of anything to say...

Problem No 2: Finding the time to comment
Now I'm not going to pretend I'm the busiest blogger about because I'm not. However, I am at university which requires a lot of personal study time (at least for me). A lot of the time I don't read new blog posts every day, which means I get very behind on posts and therefore behind on commenting. 

Problem No 3: Relating to a post
A lot of the time I think a post is really great but I just don't relate to it. If I don't relate to something than I just don't know what to comment...this kind of relates back to problem no1 of not wanting to leave a generic comment I guess. 


The thing is I never get annoyed if another blogger doesn't comment back on one of my posts so I don't know why I feel so guilty about it myself. I need to stop beating myself up about not commenting enough, there's so many more important things to worry about in life, I'm just causing myself unnecessary stress.
So what do you think about commenting? Do you ever feel guilty for not commenting on other people's blogs? Or do you just accept that you don't have time to comment on every blog post? Let me know in the comments!

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  1. now this is a discussion that people shouldn't have simply because it's very common and we should not feel guilty for not commenting.

    I agreed with you that even though I do like what people wrote, sometimes I just don't have any real respond to it & I do hate leaving a generic statement making me sound like some lazybone, which, isn't all bad because blogs are made for commenting.

    also, some people use disqus or google+ as their comment format, which sometimes keeps people from leaving comments. I know often avoided blogs that uses these formats, you do have to make commenting easy or else people just leave.

    also, there are readers who leaves comments that are simply their excuse to tell you their blog links, I have visited those people's blog just out of curiosity and I didn't leave a comments & of course, I never hear from them again.

    that's my 2 cents. have a lovely day.

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    1. yes it's so frustrating that I feel guilty about something so silly. I know so many people feel like this though! Thanks for your input!

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  2. I totally agree about the generic comment, I don't like to leave them but when I have little time and I still want to comment back after someone stopped by my blog, I may leave a short comment or maybe a comment that isn't as meaningful as I would like. The thing is I feel bad about leaving that kind of comments, so a lot of time I'm deciding whether to feel bad about not commenting back or about leaving a generic comment. It sucks! Most of the time I decide not to leave a comment at all, but I'm not sure if that's better. Anyway, great post!

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    1. YES! It's such a dilemma having to pick between leaving a generic comment or not leaving one at all...I always try to but sometimes I just can't think of anything to say!

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  3. What bothers me is if someone comments on my blog and then I forget to visit them back. I mean I know it's not about comment for comment but we do like to visit back as bloggers and if I neglect to visit I feel terrible. Your point too about generic comments- yeah that can be hard. I try to leave a meaningful comment to but sometimes I fail. lol

    The other thing is now that I follow so many blogs it can be hard to keep up with everybody? There's so much good stuff out there...

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    1. Yes I completely get where you're coming from. I always feel so bad if someone comments on one of my posts and then I don't comment back. I think it's always really lovely to leave meaningful comments but sometimes it's just not happening that day and I can't think of anything interesting to say at all!

      I get you about following so many blogs as well, it is extremely hard to keep up with them all. If I don't check every day then I'm 99% certain to fall behind. Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. We just talked about this on Conversations! I definitely think you shouldn't feel guilty for not commenting back. If you can't think of anything to comment on someone's post, or you just don't have enough time, don't worry about it! The whole point of commenting is to talk about books that we're passionate about :).

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    1. Yeah that's a really good point! In my head I know I shouldn't feel guilty for it but I just cant help myself!

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  5. I totally get this post. I have guilt when I don't comment back or just get to comment on blogs I love. There just is never enough time. I don't like leaving generic comments but if I took time to read a post I want to comment to just show I was there so I try and leave something meaningful but I am afraid sometimes it doesn't come off that way.

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    1. Yeah, that's how I feel as well! I want people to know that I've seen it and enjoyed it. Sometimes if I can't think of a comment I'll just like it on bloglovin or something like that...

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  6. When I comment on reviews, I feel that I'm leaving generic comments like: your review makes me want to read this book, blah-blah-blah... but that's generally what's on my mind. and I hate it. but there are times though when I really just don't know what to comment so I just skip and try again next time.

    Also, I know what you mean about feeling on not commenting back. I'm also generally quite busy and I find myself feeling very tired once I get home. As much as I want to comment back and generally blog hop, I can't seem to actually do it regularly.

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    1. Yes that's how I feel as well! I just can't seem to come up with anything else though...And I think you do a great job of commenting! You're probably one of the most active people for commenting I know!

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  7. I find I won't comment on others blogs for a while (for whatever reason - though mainly because I spread myself "too thin" with other online projects), but then I take a day or two and visit lots of blogs on my reading list and "catch up." Right or wrong, we all have our methods that work, and that's how we should focus our time. Great discussion post. :)

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    1. Yeah, I think I just stress out about it too much. Like I think if I don't comment on other people's post's they'll hate me and my blog will be a failure! I know it's ridiculous. I just need to concentrate on more important things.

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  8. I love this discussion so much! I think it's THE ISSUE that all bloggers have to deal with. Like you, I don't have trouble replying comments to my own posts. I might be late, but I will eventually reply, but when it comes to comment back... well, I used to be SO GOOD with it. Like, so good hahaha but that was before I got a job, so there was lots of free time :P now I find it really difficult to find the time AND mood to comment back and blog hop and it makes me sad. In fact, this is the first time I visit back your blog despite having noticed that you've left several comments before :( it was a bummer because I adore your blog, it's so gorgeous! <3 sometime I don't know what to comment either because let's be real, certain posts are just not for certain people :(

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    1. Exactly, commenting definatley depends on the mood i'm in. Sometimes I'll actually have some free time but just not be in the mood for it, but then I feel guilty for wasting precious commenting time! It's awful. Thank you for saying my blog is gorgeous though, I appreciate it! I think we all just need to stop worrying so much about silly things and concentrate on more important issues! <3

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